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do whatever I can to make it easy for you to change. In other words I'll do something different even though it's not my fault. It might not even be my responsibility. But if you want to be productive both sides every time have to say I'm going to do something different. You need to do something different too. But we have to start with that assumption. As soon as you say you need to do something di…

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y one when the marriage counselor told me this was the rule that I had to change but my ex-wife did not need to change in any way whatsoever. How do you think it turned out?

I argued like a wounded dog. I argued okay we got to change that right? We can't even talk about any details about what any issues are. We have to change that assumption because if we go into it with the assumption that I'm the only one who needs to change in any way they can't possibly have a good outcome. And she could not be persuaded away from that. She never changed her opinion that independent of what the actual issues were I was the only one who needed to change. Now I never really even understood it and never understood it. I didn't understa

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nd why that wasn't obviously the worst advice anybody ever got anywhere in the history of advice but it happened. Now how many of you had th

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