ppens then? Then the kid says there's no way I'm doing chores at your house. I'll go live with the other parent. And that's it. Game over. Because no parent wants to say okay go live with the other parent because they will. They actually will. You lose your kids.

So let's say you say all right kid you keep messing around so I'm going to punish you. Nobody punishes kids for doing their homework instead of their chores. There's just nothing you can do. There's just nothing you can do. So modern children are basically free range chickens that can kind of do what they want. Now I know every situation's different and there are kids who are born able to do their homework and their chores and they want to do both. That's a thing. But there's a whole bunch of average kids who are just, they'll never do the things that make them confident.

When I look at the number of things I did as a kid, just things like how many different things I did. Like my normal weekend would be your uncle the farmer needs somebody to help stack up the hay bales. So one day I'm stacking hay bales. Your uncle the farmer, it's the sapping season so you could be walking through the snow and carrying big buckets of sap that came from trees. All right and you know one day I'd be shoveling snow, moving furniture, mowing lawns. You know I'd play three different sports. It was just one thing after another that I had to navigate. I had to figure out how to do it and then I had to do it. And you know no screens. So I developed insane confidence almost to the point of having too much because every time I did something it worked. Mow the lawn. Oh you, it might be a problem but it worked. Yeah.

So by the time I got to college I've never, I don't know I think I told this story in the man cave. By the time I got to college I practically took over the college because everything I tried up to that point worked. So working with some of my classmates who lived in the dorm we said hey why don't we run the dorm and get rid of the resident assistant and we'll take the money and get single rooms for ourselves. Do you know how crazy that sounds? We literally sat in our dorm room and said huh why is there like this adult in our dorm? We're adults. Why do we need an adult to watch adults? How about we vote and we'll pick somebody in the building and we'll get paid instead. You know the students will get paid from the college and we'll just do that work. So we actually pitched it to the college and you know they said well you know if you can get people to agree to it for next year we'll try it. And so we did. So we went out and got people to agree to it who were going to live there next year. And then we had an election and the three of us who came up with this idea we ran against other people so other people could have won the election and gotten those jobs that we created. But we won because we'd created the whole situation. So I ended up managing the dormitory.

But there was also one business on campus. It was a coffee house. So it was the only entertainment, live entertainment, get a beer kind of place on campus. And the people who ran it were volunteers. So I volunteered to take over the finance part because I was an economics major and I redid the entire accounting and finance for class credit. I just created a class for myself. I said hey there's no accounting process here. How about I work with my accounting professor and if I created an accounting process for a business he should give me credit. And he thought so too. So I got accounting credit for creating an accounting system for a real business and then maintaining it. Which allowed me to learn accounting inside out by the time you're done the way the classroom couldn't do it. It was really good.

So that was my college experience. So I ran the biggest entertainment industry in the college. I was one of three managers in my dormitory. And then we started building interlocking directorates. We formed an oligarchy. This is a real thing. So one of our friends ran for the head of the student council. So we had a student council head in our dorm. The head of the local radio station was our best friend. So we owned like all the entities, you know the leaders of all the entities. So anything we wanted to do we had all the free publicity, you know just everything. So basically because I grew up in a do this I don't know how to do this well you will in a minute. That was my life. Do this. I don't know how to do that. You will. You're going to know how to do this by the time you're done. And then you do it over and over and over and repeat and repeat. By the time I was 18 I didn't think anything could stop me.

Now there were certainly things that could stop me so it's more of a mindset. But my mindset was I don't see why anything would stop me. Here's another example. We wanted to play indoor soccer but the gym had limited capacity and it was always cold in the winter. You couldn't play outdoors. So I said how come we can't just rent space like everybody else did? And they said well the only people who can reserve time in the gym are people who have like organizations. So if you were like a league or an organization or something you know you could do it. So I said what's it take to form an organization? And he said well you know you fill out this paperwork and the dean approves it or whatever. And I said where do I get the paperwork? And I said well you know go to the dean's office or whatever it ask for it, the business office. So I go to the business office. I get the paperwork. I fill it out. I hand it to the dean and I was a soccer club. So I was the only one in my dorm that could schedule time in the gym. All I did was identify a problem and then I said okay what's the solution and then I just slog through it like everything else I'd done to that point in my life.

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