entally lean on the board and erase part of it with their back. A lot. A lot. In other words they were accidentally destroying the thing that allowed me to show off. Because women were walking into my office and being oh you can do that. You can draw a comic. Oh that's cool. You have a skill. And men were making sure that that got hidden or destroyed.

Who would be texting me at this time of the day? All right so have you ever noticed that? Have you ever noticed that men will accidentally destroy something that allows you to show off? Right now that's a little bit what you were seeing there. So there was somebody in the comments who was listening to me literally curing people of health problems and he had a problem with it. Do you know what his problem was? Was it my arrogance? Now I'm not saying I'm not arrogant. That's not even the question. So we're not doing yes no whether he's accurate. I'm just saying what was his motivation? Let's say he was accurate. Even if he was accurate that I was acting arrogant was that worth a comment? Is that why you did it?

Now my worldview is this. That men can't allow me to show a quality that anybody would respect. That some men are really uncomfortable with that and it usually has to do with their own life and they need to suppress other men in every way that they can so that they feel better about whatever they're not getting done themselves. So that's all I see.

So here's another answer to the question Scott how can you go into this sewer of social media and watch streams of insults about your character, your looks, your intentions, everything. How can you do that and survive? And part of it is reframing. Like just that when I see that comment that doesn't look like it's about me. Am I wrong? The person who called me arrogant in this context, specifically the context of healing people from health problems mostly just by telling them that there's a solution that they can go get. Right? I mean if you're gonna on that there's something going on with you, right? So this is a good model. And by the way it's not like I invented it or anything. A lot of smart people use this model. When somebody comes at you like that in a personal way they're not attacking the argument. They're attacking the person. They have a personal problem that's just being expressed through their bad attitude. And if you can learn to see them as damaged you don't see them as your critic. I see them as just damaged. They go oh there's some debris laying by the road. I don't think the debris laying by the road is a threat to me. If I see roadkill you know what I don't think oh what's it think of me? No I try not to hit it with my car. I try to avoid it, right?

So when I see comments like that like oh you're arrogant, oh you're so arrogant, that doesn't feel personal. It feels like somebody's damaged and they're acting out. So it makes it a lot easier, right? So that's why I don't have to go after this is done I will not have to go cry myself to sleep because somebody had a bad opinion of me. Because I don't think that happened. I don't think there was any opinion of me. I think there was somebody had a personal problem and then they acted out in public and then I observed it. That's all I experienced. I didn't experience an insult.

Now is my interpretation of it accurate? Well some of you would say no he actually insulted you Scott. But I say if you can reframe your experience in one that doesn't hurt go ahead and do it. So I just reframe my experience in a way that doesn't bother me and so it's legal. It's available to me. So I just do it and it works. That's a reframe. Exactly that is a reframe.

Well I don't think I cured him of his problem but he might have some insight. Is it in the book yet? Not exactly but I might revisit that. I'm still adding reframes. Let me ask you this. Is there a reframe that I haven't already talked about that I've ever mentioned that ever helped you? Now I know that alcohol is poison helped people but are there other reframes that you sort of picked up just along the way and you say oh I'm thinking about it that way from now on? Anything that helped you? Because those are the ones I want to include in the book. If there's one that I didn't even think of as a reframe but you took it that way.

If you can't sleep you didn't put in enough work. Okay. Oh hearing cha-ching for criticisms in my writing. That's a good one. Do the alcohol one again. It's just alcohol is poison. That's it. That's the whole thing. Systems not habits. Yeah the suicide reframe. What was that? Oh the suicide reframe was to curiosity. Right, right. So let me say that again. If you have a really bad day where you're in a bad mood if you waste that, don't waste that. Don't waste that. I had a bad day the other day so I had to fire somebody. So I just used it to fire somebody and then I f