h you later. Everybody is there to do mingling. So if you say, "It was great talking to you. I got to go do some mingling." They get it because they probably have to do the same thing. So that's not awkward. Or you could say, "Can I refill your drink?" If they don't want to spend more time with you, they're gonna say, "Oh, no. I'm fine." And then you go away to refill your own drink and don't come back. Or you say, "I got to use the restroom." Or you say, "You see somebody." Here's another good one. You say, "Oh, I have to talk to Bob. Excuse me. It was great talking to you." And then you go directly over to Bob. If you know Bob.

The other thing is if you don't know a single person there, not if you don't know anybody, I always recommend looking for the alpha female. Most events have at least one alpha female and you can pick them out. You know, they're the ones flitting from one place to the other and everybody's giving them attention. Maybe they're the organizer, maybe it's the person who invited you. But if you attach to them, the alpha female, men will do it too, but the alpha females are a little bit better. They will introduce you to whoever they're standing next to. So you just walk up to them. Hi, Betty. Thanks for inviting me. They go, "Oh, glad you made it. Have you met so and so?" And here's so and so. And now you know three people that you could say hi to anytime during the party.

All right. So now you know the technique, but now we're going to get to the good part. Okay, here's the payoff. You're sitting in your car outside the party and you've got that anxiety about going in. Reframe it. Here's the reframe. You're going to rescue all those other people who have social anxiety. You're not the person with social anxiety. You're the solution. So you walk in there and you find somebody who looks uncomfortable and you walk right up to them and you solve their problem by being the person who knows how to start a conversation, which you are now. And when you're done with that person, you say, "Great meeting you. I've got to do a little more mingling." You find another person and you save them, too. You can spend your whole night saving people. And boy, will they appreciate it.

There's nothing that the other people want more than a friendly person to come up to them and start a conversation. They all want that. You are their hero. If you can do that for them, you're their hero. So you're not going there as this weak little person who's in the 10% who can't figure out how to start a conversation with a human being. That's not who you are. You are already because I just trained you and it was that easy. It really is that easy. I just taught you how to be the most effective person in the party, and you will be. You simply have to do what I just said. Just learn how to ask questions, learn how to introduce yourself with eye contact and a handshake, and learn how to leave. If you learn those very simple things, which you just did, basically, you just learned them, you are no longer a victim of social anxiety. It'll take you a few practice runs, but once you've done it like twice, you'll never have anxiety again. You'll say, "Oh, I did it twice in a row, and it was super easy, and everybody seemed to be happy about it, and I got all these phone numbers and made some friends."

So that's a reframe in my book, *Reframe Your Brain*. Now, when I tell you that this is the kind of book that changes people's lives, that's what I mean, right? So some of you didn't need that. That had no value to you whatsoever. But 100% of you know somebody who needs it, don't you? 100% of you know somebody that you're already thinking, "Oh, man. I want to get a clip of that and show my friend. That will really help them." I hope this gets clipped. Probably will be.

All right. So there are other reframes that might be more relevant to you specifically.

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